Next, we talked about a girl named Tiffany, who was working on a writing assignment but was stuck. The teacher was busy helping another student across the room. We used Think, Turn, Tell to share our ideas about what Tiffany could do (try one more time, ask a friend, raise her hand and wait for the teacher). We talked about what we should do when we have a problem in a very specific order.
- Try one more time
- Ask a friend
- Raise your hand and wait for the teacher
We talked about why we should try one more time and ask a friend before asking the teacher, and what would happen if we all asked the teacher for help every time. Next, we talked about three different ways to ask for help: passive, aggressive, and assertive. Snail modeled each one:
- Passive -- whiny, not making eye contact
- Aggressive -- bossy, mean, yelling
- Assertive -- calm, firm, respectful
We talked about what was wrong with asking for help in a passive or aggressive way, and what was right about asking for help in an assertive way. We ended the lesson by having students practice asking for help assertively.
How to Ask for Help Assertively
- Say Excuse Me
- Say the Problem
- Ask for Help