We spent the rest of the time discussing a girl named Naomi, who arrived to school late. Her teacher had already divided up the class to start working on a project, and when she arrives she doesn't have a group to join. We talked about what Naomi wants or needs (to join a group), and how she is feeling (sad, confused, nervous, disappointed). Next, I modeled three different ways to ask for help and had students describe how my voice sounded, my word choice, and my body language for each way I asked for help.
- Passive -- not making eye contact, speaking quietly, lack of confidence
- Aggressive -- too confident, making eye contact but not using respectful words
- Assertive -- calm, firm, respectful, making eye contact and standing tall
We talked about the problems you can have when asking for help passively (people may not know what you need to help you) and aggressively (people will not want to help you). We ended the lesson by having students practice asking their partners for help assertively.